My mother asked me a question concerning soul mates and pondered whether or not she married her soulmate. She is currently married going on 45 years. I assumed she must have finished watching some love story where a couple on television with no bills to pay has a single tragedy and then a blissful lifestyle for the rest of their lives. What never happens is the follow up. In reality, Angelina Jolie secures Brad Pitt from Jennifer Aniston and Nicole Poturalski secures Brad from Angelina. Each one, supposedly are soul mates. So who came up with this idea of soul mates and what perception does it leave the holder?
There is a difference between the body and the soul. God makes this difference in Matthew 10:28 where he cautions His created creatures and says, “Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.” The soul and its ownership is not tangible by human hands. The soul cannot be mated. In Matthew 22:30 we find “at the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” The concept of soul mate is from the devil. What can be mated is the body, so you could say this is my “body mate.” In 1 Corinthians 6:16 another caution that reads, “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” You can become one body with a prostitute or become one body with a wife. For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
The devil created the idea of soul mate to be used as a wedge for dissatisfied members of a marriage. It becomes a justification for its dissolution. Irreconcilable differences, this person was not my soul mate. I recall counseling one woman who was married to a man, but speaking everyday to a homosexual man that she called her soul mate. I told her she needed to remove the doctrine of demons from her home and that if she refused that she would lose her husband and child. She refused and lossed them. He’s moved on with a white woman and now she’s stalking him daily on facebook. The payment for sin is never good. It leaves you bitter and alone. It is a foreshadowing of hell.
Do not pick up this term and use it. You become one body, not one soul. Your ability to have a successful marriage is wrapped up in understanding God’s word and purpose for marriage. Kicking demonic doctrines out of your marriage and pressing toward the high call that God has placed upon your life.