How do we react when our husbands have a need that we have the ability to fulfill, and yet, we do not want to satisfy it? Maybe when our husbands are in need, we make excuses that we are too tired, or we become irritable with them because we are inconvenienced and grumble under our breath, or are stressed from having overly busy schedules (which by the way, doesn’t ever allow room for God to work in our marriages).
When we become free of resentful and grumpy attitudes, we can gladly give to our husbands, and others. After all, what good is life if we never make room for the gift of giving, knowing that we are more blessed to give than receive (Acts 20:35).
Willingly Submitting to our husbands, and giving freely, makes us true servants of God … and develops something greater in us as women. As women, we are truly the heart of the home, and our families rely on us to give freely, without “demanding” things from them in return.
“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not what he is capable of receiving.” – Albert Einstein
I realized that the ability to give freely wasn’t something that I could do in my own strength … without becoming like a bitter old fruit from a time worn tree.
As a wife and a mother, there was nothing less satisfying, or more exhausting, than battling through life everyday, and striving in my own efforts without the strength of God. There were many days that I was at the point of having a major meltdown.
This was a time of my life when my marriage was struggling, I didn’t understand that successful marriages were based on a love that not only looks to their own personal interests, but looks to the best interest of others.
The evidence of love is found in seeing the needs of others, and doing whatever we can to meet them.If anyone is in need and we harden our hearts against them … love does not abide in us (1John 3:17) and most certainly not in our marriages.
God’s Will is not for us as wives to be hardhearted, stubborn, and outright rebellious against our husbands. These kinds of reactions are not wise decisions to make, and only causes our own hearts to break and our marriages to crumble.
There is always a cause and effect to any choice we make. We must learn to make responsible and healthy choices for ourselves, and our marriages, if the result that we are hoping for in the long run is going to be of value.
Thankfully, along the course of my faith-filled journey, God placed before me the opportunity to use my faith, and give more of myself to my husband, as well as others.
I knew deep within my heart that I was moving closer to the woman I yearned to be … as God’s love shed light upon my heart … and the darkness faded from my soul.
Your probably thinking because I have all of this great revelation of knowledge, that I must be “the perfect wife”… and really I’m not.
I don’t have half of what it takes to behave perfectly, but I have “The One” working inside of me who’s love is perfect, and as a child of God, I believe that am to be perfected in His everlasting love. Thankfully … God’s power is made perfect, even in my weak and embarrassingly selfish moments! Cont…